In the recent years there has been a rise in depressed people and suicides. Obviously there are many reasons that lead to this. I will be making a post in the feature with a summary of the reasons. For now we are gonna focus on one of the main reasons.
It might sound controversial at first. Some might say Hope is an entirely good thing.
At first yes. Hope is positive. Hoping that things will get better eventually. Hope is needed but in a certain level.
Hope though often means expectations. When we have expectations then the problems begin.
On the long run we might begin to stabilize our-self by hoping that things will get better. After a while that might not happen. Things then might get worse. This is a serious tripping point. Where depression and bad thoughts take over.
I personally reached that point. I had my situation managed only to be worse again.
I am still positive and hope that things will get better. I accepted that no matter how much injustice I felt (Some of the reason for my ‘fall’ were not my fault) , I still had to work harder (with myself and in general). I personally believed that in a certain moment of my life I reached the bottom. Like it couldn’t get any worse. So then I had the expectation (hope) that it will get better (since it couldn’t get worse). Only to realize that I hadn’t reached bottom yet. Then the true ‘fall’ happend.
Eventually now, I no longer expect things. I discovered the good things in me and my life and built on those. It is a slow reinvention process that lead me to many great things already. Made me set new targets.Now I no longer miss certain things I had while slow and steady working on my new goals. I don’t really have expectations, knowing I might not reach my goals.I just hope I do, knowing I might not make it. I just appreciate everyday the way it is building on the good stuff. I feel much better with myself. Now I am actually glad I had this experience. I would never grow that much as a person without it. This helped me reach a much higher point as a person than what I was before the ‘fall’
Closing this post with an interesting realization.
At first glance we might believe we are falling to the bottom really fast unable to prevent it. Only to realize that the way to the bottom is the way UP.